Money Tips
By Dr. Judith Gerhart
Where did your money story come from?
No matter what our financial background, we all have unique money stories imprinted upon us from a young age. And whether we’re conscious or not of what we’ve absorbed, we all pass along these stories, feelings and attitudes to our children, partners, friends and colleagues. Even if you don’t talk much about the topic, that in itself, is part of your story.
The first step in getting a handle on your money story is to figure out what your parents or other childhood models taught you about money. This influence is so strong that most adults recreate family money dynamics –the familiar –in one of three ways:
1.Being attracted and attractive to people who are similar to those “childhood models”
2.Interpreting other people’s behaviour as being similar to your parents or childhood models (whether it’s the same or not)
3.Doing all you can to get the other person to exhibit familiar behaviours.
Here’s the kicker: Even if you consciously choose someone who’s different from your mom or dad, it’s likely you’ll unconsciously try to change that person so they fit into the family blueprint (which is why we often get angry at a partner for not being who we want them to be).
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